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5. The Abandonment Schema and Break-ups
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In this episode, Gemma and Justine answer a question from one of their Schema Circle members.
The question asks how can we know if our reaction to a break-up is fuelled by an abandonment schema or not?  Before getting into this question, Gemma provides a review of the abandonment schema, it's origin and how it tends to play out in romantic relationships.
The 3 ways this schema plays out in romantic relationships are (1) - an avoidance pattern; (2) - a surrendering pattern and (3) - an over-compensating pattern. Gemma gives examples and explains each of these patterns.